Your Mind is Literally Uniquely You

Feb 29

No amount of science will ever fully explain your mind.

That’s because your mind is as unique as your fingerprints—and shaped entirely by your lived experiences.

Even conjoined twins—who share a body—see the world differently.
They process things in their own ways. They react differently.

Because no two minds are the same.

What’s Going On Underneath

When life looks good on paper but still feels off—when there’s a low-grade dissatisfaction you can’t explain—it’s often your unconscious mind that holds the answers.

It stores everything you’ve lived through, even the stuff you don’t consciously remember.

Unresolved emotions.
Beliefs you didn’t realize were shaping you.
Protective patterns that may have made sense at one point—but are now just keeping you stuck.

When Things Start Making Sense

Once you start looking beneath the surface, things that used to feel frustrating or confusing begin to click.

You start to see that the things you do—pulling back, overthinking, avoiding, saying yes when you mean no—aren’t random.

They’re patterns your mind learned to keep you safe.

What felt like self-sabotage starts to look more like self-protection.

For example: the need to say “yes” when saying “no” could have brought conflict.

And just because those patterns are still running doesn’t mean your brain needs to keep running them…

It just means there was a reason they were there in the first place.

There’s nothing broken.

You’ve simply been doing the best you could with what your brain understood at the time.

The Past Isn’t Always Done With You

Even when you’ve done the healing work, the unconscious can hold onto pieces.

The survivor brain doesn’t just let go because the conscious mind says, “I’m fine now.”
It holds onto what it learned—even after the emotional charge is gone.

I’ve healed the emotional pain of my childhood sexual abuse.
I’ve grieved Jim’s death and come to peace with it.

But that didn’t mean all the patterns disappeared.
There were still reactions that popped up in everyday situations—small things that didn’t match the current moment, but still showed up anyway.

And because I know to look under the hood, I did. With curiosity.

Unsurprisingly, what I found made perfect sense.

They were responses shaped by a version of me who needed them.
But they weren’t useful anymore, and I set about retraining my unconscious mind to what works better for me.

That’s how the unconscious works.
It doesn’t check for relevance. It just runs the program it installed from past learnings.

Healing—and really, change work in general—has many layers to it.
The brain builds learning upon learning.

For me, it just meant that there were patterns still active—and now that I saw them, I could do something about it.

That’s just part of the process: paying attention to what’s still running and asking if it’s still needed.

Knowing Your Mind Changes Everything

The more you understand the unconscious, the more clearly you see what’s actually running your life.

You start to make different choices—not from willpower, but from awareness.
You can’t strong-arm your way out of patterns that live in the unconscious.

You stop reacting automatically and start responding with choice.
You get space. Clarity. A little more calm.

Not because you “figured it all out.”
But because you finally stopped ignoring the part of you that’s been quietly trying to get your attention.

You Don’t Have to Untangle It Alone

This stuff can feel heavy to sort through on your own.

That’s why I do the work I do.

To help you see what’s going on beneath the surface, with curiosity and without judgment or pressure.

And when you’re ready to dig in, I’m here.

I'M READY TO DIG IN!

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Want to Go Deeper?

If you’re starting to recognize that your reactions aren’t random—and you’re curious about what’s really going on beneath the surface—this workbook is a powerful place to begin.

It’ll guide you to tune into your inner senses—what you see, what you hear, and what you feel—so you can start noticing the patterns your unconscious mind has been running.

Because once you notice these patterns, you can begin to shift them.

👉 Grab the workbook and start listening to your unconscious mind.