Getting Past Survivor
Finally Be The Real You
There comes a point when surviving just isn’t enough.
You’ve made it through the worst—but life still feels like a holding pattern. You’re not falling apart, but you’re not thriving either. That quiet sense that something more is possible? It’s not wishful thinking. It’s truth. And it’s what this space is all about.
Getting Past Survivor was born from that very moment—when I realized I was no longer in crisis, but far from feeling whole. I’d lived through childhood sexual abuse, relentless bullying by both other kids and teachers, and a difficult marriage that drained me. I had done a lot of healing — but something was still missing. And deep down, I knew something better was possible. So I went looking for it.
In the years that followed, my healing was tested in ways I couldn’t have predicted—especially when I lost the love of my life at 54. It was another kind of survival. But even through that grief, the work I’d done helped me keep going. And now, I help others do the same.
This space is a blend of blog and voice. Every post can be read, and many include audio so you can listen right here or on my podcast. Take in the words however they land best for you.
You’ll find:
🧠 Brain-based tools—NLP, hypnosis, and unconscious rewiring that actually work
❤️🩹 Real talk on grief, growth, and healing (the non-linear kind)
🌱 The messy, beautiful journey to becoming you again
💬 Support from someone who gets it—not to fix you, but to walk with you
If you feel like there’s something beyond the pain—even if you can’t name it yet—you’re right. And you don’t have to get there alone.
To read more about my story: The Reason for Getting Past Survivor
How Survivors Are Still Being Silenced
Silence doesn’t protect survivors—it protects abusers and the systems that dismiss our pain. From families to social media, survivors are told to stay quiet. But every time one of us speaks, the shame cracks and the cycle weakens. Your story matters. Your voice is enough.
Your unconscious mind is driving more than you think
Your unconscious mind is working behind the scenes, making choices long before you notice. In those hidden seconds, it shapes your actions, reactions, and even emotions. The good news? You can reprogram these automatic patterns and harness your mind’s power to create the life you actually want.
The Silence Around Sibling Sexual Abuse
When people think of child sexual abuse, they often picture strangers or adults outside the family. What rarely gets talked about is the harm that happens at home — at the hands of siblings. This silence leaves many survivors confused, dismissed, or doubting their own experience. It’s time to change that.
When Gratitude Feels Out of Reach
If you’ve ever felt like gratitude is just out of reach, this blog is for you. It’s not about resistance—it’s about protection. Explore why your brain might not feel safe enough for gratitude yet, and how true healing begins with listening, not forcing.
When Survival Was the Plan
You’ve probably heard it: “Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans.”
Sounds poetic—unless your only “plan” was to survive.
This post explores what happens when surviving is the whole story… and how healing makes room for more.
Beyond the Body
Healing doesn’t stop at the body. Discover why engaging all your senses—sight, sound, smell, and inner imagery—are essential for deep, lasting change. Go beyond talk, beyond touch, and into true transformation.
Raised by Love… and Control: The Adult Child of a Helicopter or Snowplow Parent
You were loved, but tightly guided. Hovered over. Protected. Maybe even managed. This isn’t about blame—it’s about the hidden cost of being overparented, and how to start trusting yourself now.
Helicopters, Snowplows, and the Hidden Wounds of Parenting
You want to give your child the best. But sometimes what looks like love is really control. This blog explores the hidden patterns behind overparenting—and how your healing creates space for theirs.
The Battle Between Knowing and Feeling
You know you’ve grown. You know the relationship is over. So why does your chest still tighten? Why do you still flinch, worry, or overthink even when life feels calm? This post explores the hidden reason your healing hasn’t felt like healing—and what you can do about it.
I’m Raising People Not Pets
Being a mom doesn't end when your kids grow up—but the role changes. Learn how to stop over-caring, trust the adults you raised, and stay lovingly connected without hovering.
How to Stop Expecting the Worst
Still on edge, even though nothing bad has happened in years? Your brain may be stuck in fear. Learn how to begin retraining unconscious patterns and finally feel safe—without forcing yourself to “just get over it.”
Are You Gaslighting Yourself?
Think gaslighting only comes from others? Learn how self-gaslighting shows up, why we do it, and what happens when we finally stop minimizing our truth. The most convincing lies are the ones we tell ourselves.
Change Can Be Easy
Change doesn’t have to be a battle.
If your brain feels stuck, it’s not broken—it’s just following old instructions. Real change starts when you stop pushing and start listening.
You’re Not Broken
You’re not broken.
Even after healing, something can still feel off. There’s a reason—and a way through it.
Why Affirmations Don’t Work—Until You Do This
Affirmations aren’t magic spells—they’re only effective when your unconscious mind believes them. In this blog, I revisit the real reason positive affirmations often fall flat and share how to speak to your brain in a way it can actually hear.
Say It Like It’s Over
The way you talk about your experiences might be the reason they’re still hanging around.
The Key to Change!
Change feels hard because your brain craves ease. Learn how aligning your unconscious mind makes transformation effortless.
Create Your Future
Ready to shape your future? Future pacing helps you align your mind and emotions to turn your goals into reality. Discover how this powerful technique can transform your path—read more!
The Day I Didn’t Stay Silent
He counted on me staying quiet. But something in me had changed. Years ago, I might’ve frozen. This time, I found my voice—right there in the middle of the holiday crowd.
Connections That Thrive
Want to strengthen your most important relationships? Discover how to nurture trust, build intimacy, and create bonds that truly thrive. Read more now!