Getting Past Survivor

Because surviving was never meant to be the whole story

Sometimes becoming a survivor comes after big, obvious traumas.

Other times it’s the seemingly smaller experiences — being dismissed, embarrassed, bullied, or unheard — the kinds of moments that quietly wire our brains to live in survival mode.

That’s why I call this space Getting Past “Survivor.” It’s about living beyond those survival defaults — fight, flight, freeze, or fawn — and into the life you choose. A lifelong journey of letting go, rewiring the mind, and becoming someone you can finally rely on to treat you well.

Here you’ll find:

• The Hidden Wounds — reflections on bullying, micro-traumas, parenting patterns, and the unspoken ways we learn to survive

• The Brain & the Unconscious Mind — why it does what it does, how it protects us, and how we can rewire it

• Tools for Change — practical strategies, NLP and hypnosis insights, and simple ways to move from survival to choice

• Living & Healing Out Loud — personal stories of grief, growth, and the messy, beautiful process of becoming

If you feel like there’s something beyond the survival mode you’ve grown uncomfortably comfortable with — even if you can’t name it yet — you’re right. And you don’t have to figure it out alone.

💙 Helen

To read more about my story: The Reason for Getting Past Survivor