The next time you experience a vivid dream, a sudden memory, or a strong gut feeling, don't push it away.

Welcome it. Sit with it. Understand it.

These sensory experiences are like messengers, bringing forth insights from the depths of your unconscious mind. Learn more about how to connect more deeply with yourself.

Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) often feel silenced, dismissed, or disbelieved — even by those closest to them. In this heartfelt episode, I share why it’s so important to truly listen. Because silence doesn’t protect anyone — but empathy and belief can change everything.

This blog post explores two mindsets: "go-getter" (enthusiastic and goal-oriented - moving towards) and "avoider" (cautious and problem-focused - moving away from). Let’s talk about the importance of language patterns in shaping our reality and encourage a balanced communication style that considers both pursuing goals and addressing challenges.

Nagging feelings like emptiness, fear, and overwhelm are signals from our unconscious mind, urging us to explore and understand ourselves better. Through self-reflection, we can decode the messages behind these feelings and make positive changes in our lives.

Survivors of CSA often learn to suppress their voice before they even know they have one. In this honest and deeply personal reflection, I explore how silence shaped my early life—and how opening communication with my own children became the greatest healing of all.

When my children were growing up, our dinner table was a special place. Each night, one of them would be the moderator, asking questions that brought us closer together. We shared the best and worst parts of our day, what made us laugh and cry, something we learned, and our favorite memory. These conversations created a bond that will forever be cherished.

You’ve heard of the fear of success, but what about the benefits of not succeeding? Looking back at your life, where did holding yourself back actually seem beneficial to your unconscious mind? The unconscious mind is there to serve you, but all too often it has the wrong idea. In this case, for me, it was all about changing my mindset to embrace that as much as I held myself back, I truly did want to succeed.

Over the last few years I had resolved so many things but didn't recognize that there was a part of me that was still needing to be addressed, cleared, resolved, loved, and that was my 7-8 year old who had to leave Belgium, had to leave the life where she finally had her first friends, first real relationships.

What does hope mean to you? How does it show up in your life, in your healing journey? Do you have hope for yourself? I didn’t for a long time, even though I was determined to find it. And when I did find it, I found me.

People say it's not the destination, it's the journey. But when it comes to Getting Past Survivor, it truly is the destination.

What do you do when your home life is turned upside unexpectedly? How do you react within when you learn that you have 3 weeks to move everything you and your 3 children own? It was chaos, but I didn’t feel it in my body. Rather than panic, my brain was in control in a way that was calm and focused on solutions. How do you want your brain to respond in times of chaos?

Have you ever repeatedly spoken positive affirmations or written them out over and over only to find you just don't feel much different? That's because it's all in your head. In this blog I briefly explain why this happens and what you can do to adopt the positive attitude you want.

Change can feel like moving to a foreign country. Not knowing the language, the customs, the culture can be daunting, but support such as a translator or tour guide can make the transition less overwhelming. You can find similar support to be helpful when making internal changes like learning your own intuition and understanding your view of the world. Hiring a guide or travel agent in this inner journey can make huge differences in how well you navigate your internal change.

After years of healing and surviving, you might still find yourself stuck in one question: Now what? This reflection explores the often-overlooked step in trauma recovery — rebuilding identity, purpose, and life on your own terms.

Life is full of chaos. And that’s a bad thing, right? Or is it? Reframing what we perceive as negative into something that’s positive will shift your focus into finding the bright side of life!

From Thanksgiving through New Years, we can feel overwhelmed with holiday stress. In the process, our brains are preparing us for what it expects, similar to how it instinctively guides wild animals to find the food and water they need when the environment around them changes. So much is learned behavior and response that we don't need to keep holding on to.

The map and territory are metaphors used to illustrate the difference between the actual world and our understanding of the world as we perceive it to be. The ‘map’ is our understanding of the ‘territory’ of reality, and we must be careful to remember that the map is not the territory! Let's talk about how distorted maps affect relationships so we can become more aware of how we're seeing the world. The more we understand our views, the more we can update our maps, the better we can relate to others and with ourselves!

Are you in a relationship - dating, married, friendship - and feeling disconnected as if you don’t exist? Are you feeling unvalued, unheard, or misunderstood? Is this a relationship you truly want in the first place? Mine wasn’t, but I couldn’t walk away…

The dentist office is a scary place for most people I know. It’s even worse for survivors of sexual abuse. Here is some insight for both survivors, and professionals who serve them, so we can create a feeling of safety in the dentist chair.

The Power of the Woobie

We don’t really know the power of stuffed animals and blankets when we first give them to our babies, but as babies are developing they are developing attachment to the objects around them and these woobies become much more than objects to babies. They’re comfort within that last a lifetime.