Getting Past Survivor
Finally Be The Real You
There comes a point when surviving just isn’t enough.
You’ve made it through the worst—but life still feels like a holding pattern. You’re not falling apart, but you’re not thriving either. That quiet sense that something more is possible? It’s not wishful thinking. It’s truth. And it’s what this space is all about.
Getting Past Survivor was born from that very moment—when I realized I was no longer in crisis, but far from feeling whole. I’d lived through childhood abuse, relentless bullying, and a marriage that drained me. I had done a lot of healing — but something was still missing. And deep down, I knew something better was possible. So I went looking for it.
In the years that followed, my healing was tested in ways I couldn’t have predicted—especially when I lost the love of my life at 54. It was another kind of survival. But even through that grief, the work I’d done helped me keep going. And now, I help others do the same.
This space is a blend of blog and voice. Every post can be read, and many include audio so you can listen right here or on my podcast. Take in the words however they land best for you.
You’ll find:
🧠 Brain-based tools—NLP, hypnosis, and unconscious rewiring that actually work
❤️🩹 Real talk on grief, growth, and healing (the non-linear kind)
🌱 The messy, beautiful journey to becoming you again
💬 Support from someone who gets it—not to fix you, but to walk with you
If you feel like there’s something beyond the pain—even if you can’t name it yet—you’re right. And you don’t have to get there alone.
To read more about my story: The Reason for Getting Past Survivor
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Easy Nervous System Reset
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Achieve Those Lingering Goals!
Uncover and overcome hidden blocks in your long-standing goals. Reflect deeply, identify obstacles, and develop strategies to finally achieve your dreams with structured journaling.
NLP Presuppositions
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Fake It Till You Make It
While the intention behind the phrase "fake it till you make it" is to boost confidence, the word "fake" may subconsciously reinforce that you are not truly capable or deserving of success. This can create a conflict between your conscious efforts and your unconscious beliefs, hindering your ability to achieve consistent success.
You’ve Mastered Your Problems
Recognizing unconscious patterns developed from past experiences can greatly impact our daily lives. These ingrained behaviors often stem from childhood and can dictate our emotional and psychological responses as adults, sometimes in ways that no longer serve our current needs.
Forgiveness On My Terms
Here, I share my story—not to prescribe, but to offer solidarity in the search for a healing process that honors our individual truths. This is a dialogue about the courage to heal on our own terms, and a challenge to the one-size-fits-all solution often imposed upon survivors of trauma.
Your Mind Behind the Curtain
"Your Mind Behind the Curtain" offers a behind-the-scenes look at how I leverage NLP and hypnosis to catalyze change. Discover my approach to unlocking your unconscious, reshaping your experiences, and steering towards your fullest potential.
Introspection/Self-Perception
Introspection is a natural process where our minds reflect on ourselves, but it often leans toward negativity due to our brain's survival instincts and external influences. However, exploring our sensory experiences can help us understand our thoughts and emotions better. By being curious and embracing this journey, we can grow and become more authentic. Introspection isn't about getting lost in negativity; it's about understanding ourselves deeply.
Uncovering Hidden Struggles
Did you know that our past experiences can deeply influence our present reality, even if we're not consciously aware of it? Meet Lily, whose outward success belied a hidden struggle rooted in childhood emotional neglect. Follow her journey of self-discovery as she uncovers the unconscious patterns driving her behavior and learns to rewrite her story from the inside out.
The Downside of Speaking Goals
Discover the surprising downside of sharing your goals aloud in today's digital age. Uncover how the social reality effect can hinder your progress, leaving you feeling satisfied without taking meaningful steps forward. Learn practical strategies to navigate this phenomenon and stay focused on your aspirations. Read on for tips on selective sharing, action-oriented planning, and celebrating real milestones. Find the balance between external validation and internal drive. Dive into the full blog for insights and actionable advice.
Boost Your Self-Esteem: Transformative Tools for Positive Change
Explore the transformative journey of overcoming low self-esteem, guided by the concept of mindful debugging. Uncover the power of self-guided experiences through purposeful workbooks designed for personal growth. Discover tangible benefits and witness the transformative process that leads to a more empowered and resilient self and ultimately raise your self-esteem!
Understanding and Navigating Trauma: A Comprehensive Guide for Survivors and Their Loved Ones
The belief that "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" doesn't always hold true for trauma survivors. Trauma can lead to behaviors like excessive accommodation, tolerance of negativity, emotional clutter, quick forgiveness, and difficulty asserting oneself. Loved ones should encourage survivors to express needs, set boundaries, and be patient. Survivors may also face challenges in speaking up, excessive sensitivity, trust issues, and navigating relationships. The path to healing involves understanding these changes, fostering open communication, and providing support for a balanced and fulfilling life.
Your Mind is Literally Uniquely You
Explore the depths of the unconscious to understand how past experiences influence our present reality. From revealing hidden conflicts to changing negative patterns, delving into our minds can lead to clarity, healing, and personal growth. Discover the power of self-awareness and embark on a journey to unlock your true potential.
Understanding the Limbic System and Our Sensory Experiences
Discover the power of your limbic system, the brain's emotional center, in shaping how you see, hear, and feel the world. From interpreting visual cues to attaching emotions to sounds and sensations, it influences every aspect of our sensory experiences. Understanding this connection empowers us to navigate our emotions, recognize triggers, and make conscious choices for personal growth and well-being. Unlock the secrets of your mind and embrace the marvels of neuroscience!
The Power of Words
Our words shape our brains. Expressions like "I feel depressed" reinforce negativity. Discussing problems offers temporary relief but often leads to frustration and limited change. Positive affirmations benefit those with high self-esteem but may worsen negative beliefs for those with low self-esteem due to confirmation bias. Understanding how our brains interpret language, including sensory experiences, is crucial for lasting change and personal growth.
From Chaos to Clarity
Embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation as you explore the profound insights of hypnosis and the unconscious mind. Through these posts, unlock practical tools to accelerate your personal growth and understand yourself on a deeper level. Gain invaluable insights into how your subconscious influences your actions and learn to harness this power for positive change. Dive into the fascinating revelation that the brain reacts before conscious awareness, offering a new perspective on the mysteries of your mind.
Unlock the Hidden Mind
Did you know that 95% of your mind's activity happens beyond your conscious awareness? This hidden realm holds the key to your automatic emotional and behavioral responses. Feel like you're lacking control? It's because you haven't learned to speak the language of your unconscious mind. By learning how to communicate with it, you’ll tap into the power of your whole mind and achieve the changes you really want.
Your Opposite Can Reveal Your True Self
Diving into the idea of your opposite self is a fun trip into “What if?” land. It’s about being curious enough to flip your view around, just to see what’s on the other side. Give it a shot - Ask yourself, “If I were totally different, what would I do?” You might be surprised by what you find. There could be brilliant sides of you waiting in the shadows of the unconscious mind ready to say, “Hey, where have you been?”