Getting Past Survivor
Because “surviving” was never meant to be the whole story
If you’ve ever felt stuck replaying the same patterns — overthinking, people-pleasing, shutting down, or trying to prove your worth — you already know survival mode doesn’t end just because the danger did.
It lingers in the brain, shaping how you think, feel, and show up in life.
This space is about understanding how your brain learned to survive, how to rewire it, and how to live freely, fully, and intentionally.
You may have survived something big or small — but survival isn’t the end of your story.
Getting Past Survivor is about moving beyond those automatic patterns — fight, flight, freeze, or fawn — and into a life led by choice, not fear.
It’s the journey of letting go, retraining the mind, and becoming someone you can trust to treat yourself well.
If you sense there’s something beyond survival — even if you can’t name it yet — you’re right.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
💙 Helen
To read more about my story: The Reason for Getting Past Survivor
If you’d like to explore specific topics or themes — from self-trust to rewiring the brain
— visit the Getting Past Survivor Library.
It’s a listing of the blogs in my every growing collection, sorted into 6 healing pillars (w/ links):
💫 Self-Trust | 🌱 Self-Design | 🧠 Rewire Your Brain | 🤝 Relationships | 🎯 Tools & Sensory Awareness | 💬 Own Your Voice
The Loop That Won’t Let Go
Ever notice how your mind replays the same moment, even when it’s long over? This blog explores why your brain does that—and how meta-awareness helps you break free from the loop that won’t let go.
Trusting Our Confidence
We don’t just fear our flaws — sometimes we fear our strengths. Confidence can feel unsettling when it’s new, but trusting it is where freedom begins.
Being Proud of Ourselves
We grow up trying to make others proud, but the real transformation begins when we learn to feel it ourselves.
Release Emotion, Gain Clarity
When emotion takes over, clarity disappears. Discover how releasing emotional charge—without losing feeling—restores balance and opens new possibilities.
I Don’t Want to Wrestle With My Brain
When your thoughts feel loud and convincing, it’s easy to mistake them for truth. But what if they’re just signals from a brain that’s trying—sometimes clumsily—to protect you? Learn how awareness and compassion can shift everything.
Do We Really Use Only 10% of Our Brain?
It’s one of the most repeated claims in pop culture: we only use 10% of our brain. The truth is more fascinating than fiction—and it might just change how you think about your own mind.
Everyone’s a Pawn
We all think we’re making conscious choices — but something else might be moving the pieces. This isn’t about manipulation; it’s about awareness.
The Mental Shell Game
Ever feel like your brain’s playing a game you didn’t agree to join? You chase the answer, it disappears. Then out of nowhere—it’s back. What if that moment isn’t forgetfulness?
What About…?
We’ve all done it—blurted out, “But what about…?” when emotions run high. It feels harmless, but it’s actually the brain’s quick way of dodging discomfort.
Between Holding On and Letting Go
Healing can feel uncertain when your brain mistakes change for danger. In that quiet space between holding on and letting go, your senses reveal how your unconscious protects you—and how to gently teach it that freedom is safe.
Your unconscious mind is driving more than you think
Your unconscious mind is working behind the scenes, making choices long before you notice. In those hidden seconds, it shapes your actions, reactions, and even emotions. The good news? You can reprogram these automatic patterns and harness your mind’s power to create the life you actually want.
Beyond the Body
Healing doesn’t stop at the body. Discover why engaging all your senses—sight, sound, smell, and inner imagery—are essential for deep, lasting change. Go beyond talk, beyond touch, and into true transformation.
The Key to Change!
Change feels hard because your brain craves ease. Learn how aligning your unconscious mind makes transformation effortless.
The One True Brain (and the Other Two "Brains" People Like to Talk About)
Explore the fascinating connection between the brain, heart, and gut—the three "brains" that influence your emotions, physical health, and overall well-being. Learn how these systems communicate with each other and how understanding this connection can help you improve mental clarity, emotional resilience, and even physical health.
Neuroplasticity: How to Rewire Your Brain for Growth
Neuroplasticity is the brain's ability to adapt and change, helping you build new neural pathways and strengthen cognitive flexibility. By engaging in activities like learning, physical exercise, mindfulness, and proper nutrition, you can enhance brain function, recover from emotional and physical injuries, and improve overall well-being. Discover how neuroplasticity supports growth, creativity, and emotional resilience, empowering you to thrive in all areas of life.
The Brain-Body Connection
Our bodies respond to stress, pain, and emotions in ways that might seem mysterious, but it all comes down to the brain. Let's talk about the science behind how your brain controls every sensation through a complex network of communication pathways. Learn how to tap into this connection using visual, auditory, and sensory techniques to manage stress, reduce tension, and create lasting calm.
The Little Things Matter
Micro-traumas—those small, often overlooked moments of hurt or rejection—can have a big impact on your emotional well-being. While they might seem insignificant at the time, these subtle experiences can accumulate over the years, shaping your self-esteem, relationships, and even your everyday decisions. It’s not just the big, life-changing events that leave a mark; the little things matter too.
Remember to Forget / Forget to Remember
Have you ever considered how much control you have over your own memories? The concepts of “remembering to forget” and “forgetting to remember” reveal that we can actively choose how we deal with our past and present experiences.
The Power of “YET”
In facing challenges, the words we use shape our mindset. "YET language"—phrases like “so far,” “until now,” or “beyond this point”—shifts our focus from past limitations to future possibilities. Instead of seeing problems as permanent, "YET language" helps us view them as temporary obstacles with the potential for growth.
15 Things You Can Be Okay With While Healing from Trauma
Healing is a personal journey, and it’s okay to experience various feelings and needs along the way. This blog explores 15 aspects of the healing process and offers sensory-focused tips to help you connect more deeply with yourself. Embrace each part of your journey with compassion and remember, support is always here if you need it.