Getting Past Survivor
Because “surviving” was never meant to be the whole story
If you’ve ever felt stuck replaying the same patterns — overthinking, people-pleasing, shutting down, or trying to prove your worth — you already know survival mode doesn’t end just because the danger did.
It lingers in the brain, shaping how you think, feel, and show up in life.
This space is about understanding how your brain learned to survive, how to rewire it, and how to live freely, fully, and intentionally.
You may have survived something big or small — but survival isn’t the end of your story.
Getting Past Survivor is about moving beyond those automatic patterns — fight, flight, freeze, or fawn — and into a life led by choice, not fear.
It’s the journey of letting go, retraining the mind, and becoming someone you can trust to treat yourself well.
If you sense there’s something beyond survival — even if you can’t name it yet — you’re right.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
💙 Helen
To read more about my story: The Reason for Getting Past Survivor
If you’d like to explore specific topics or themes — from self-trust to rewiring the brain
— visit the Getting Past Survivor Library.
It’s a listing of the blogs in my every growing collection, sorted into 6 healing pillars (w/ links):
💫 Self-Trust | 🌱 Self-Design | 🧠 Rewire Your Brain | 🤝 Relationships | 🎯 Tools & Sensory Awareness | 💬 Own Your Voice
Trusting Our Confidence
We don’t just fear our flaws — sometimes we fear our strengths. Confidence can feel unsettling when it’s new, but trusting it is where freedom begins.
Being Proud of Ourselves
We grow up trying to make others proud, but the real transformation begins when we learn to feel it ourselves.
Release Emotion, Gain Clarity
When emotion takes over, clarity disappears. Discover how releasing emotional charge—without losing feeling—restores balance and opens new possibilities.
Awareness Before Desire
We often reach for what’s missing without ever noticing what’s already here. This piece explores how awareness transforms desire — and how clarity about what you have reveals what you actually want.
What About…?
We’ve all done it—blurted out, “But what about…?” when emotions run high. It feels harmless, but it’s actually the brain’s quick way of dodging discomfort.
Advice or Empathy?
Advice shows up fast—sometimes from us, sometimes toward us. It’s how the brain tries to create safety in uncertainty. But empathy offers something deeper: connection. This piece explores why advice feels so natural, what our nervous system is really asking for, and how to tell when to fix—or simply feel.
Between Holding On and Letting Go
Healing can feel uncertain when your brain mistakes change for danger. In that quiet space between holding on and letting go, your senses reveal how your unconscious protects you—and how to gently teach it that freedom is safe.
Your unconscious mind is driving more than you think
Your unconscious mind is working behind the scenes, making choices long before you notice. In those hidden seconds, it shapes your actions, reactions, and even emotions. The good news? You can reprogram these automatic patterns and harness your mind’s power to create the life you actually want.
Beyond the Body
Healing doesn’t stop at the body. Discover why engaging all your senses—sight, sound, smell, and inner imagery—are essential for deep, lasting change. Go beyond talk, beyond touch, and into true transformation.